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Top Five Ways to Show Confidence

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Remember this?  It’s one of Team HEUCY’s favorite movies of all time: Working Girl.  Tess has bad hair and a pretty strong accent..but she’s a smart cookie, and after a getting a haircut, working on her “game” (no more fidgeting) and stealing some outfits from Sigourney Weaver’s closet, she gets the job and the guy.  (A 1980s Harrison Ford…nuff said).  The only thing missing from Tess’s makeover was a HEUCY wardrobe.  Can’t you imagine her killing it in the board room in the Date Night, and then heading out for drinks with Mr. Ford?  Zipper up!

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This movie reminds me of entering the workforce after college, and thinking that many of my elders in the room (mostly men, I’m sad to say) were really smart and “on it”.  As I sat in my poly-blend black skirt suit and square toed pumps from Loehmann’s, I would watch the “Directors” in the room talk and think to myself, these people must really know what they’re doing.  When I grow up, I want to be just like them!

Now that I’m grown up, and a bit wiser, I realize that most of those people were actually winging it.  They sounded “right” and people listened to them because they were poised and confident.  If you want your point to be heard, and followed, then how you say something matters as much as what you say.  An English accents helps too, but in lieu of that, you can really use your body language to show confidence.  Whether you’re in a conference room, a coffee shop or a toddler’s bedroom explaining “why not”, these tips are great to keep in mind.

1. Put your hands out.  If this makes you uncomfortable, put them on your hips.  Never in your pockets!  Having hands out in the open shows you have nothing to hide, which is very important when negotiating with old and young people.

2. Chin up, eyes forward.

3. Stand up straight!  When you’re walking, try to remember to push your shoulders back slightly.  Not too much.  Holding in your stomach helps.  (Yes, we know this is hard…especially if you’ve had kids and/or consumed too many bagels that day…we’ll follow up with some quick core strengthening and toning exercises 🙂

4. Smile.  I have a friend who used to compensate for her size (she’s very petite) by never smiling in a meeting.  She wanted to be revered, so she felt like she had to act tough.  Now she acknowledges that a softer approach would have been more effective.  You want people on your side.  You can be nice and smart.

5. Make contact.  Think of Bill Clinton’s double-handed hand shake and a pat on the back…people like this.  Obviously, too much is too much sometimes in a professional setting, so gauge appropriately.

TGIF, people!  Have a great weekend.

xx,

The HEUCY Team

What Does “Being Chic” Mean to You?

DeanneYeeWhen we asked our friend and HEUCY Gal Deanne Yee, “What does being chic mean to you?”, she said, “Feeling confident in your own skin!” 🙂

We thought this was a brilliant answer.  And it led us to wonder, how can you feel confident…on days when you’re not feeling so great about yourself?  When you haven’t washed your hair, or you’re in a rut at work, or you’ve gained a few pounds after stress-eating during last night’s episode of “Homeland”.

I pulled up an article from The Huffington Post, posted on 9/1/14, which covers “8 Scientifically-Backed Ways to Feel More Confident (Even When You’re Not)”…it’s a great list to keep in mind on those feeling-not-so-hot days.  Here’s a synopsis:

1. Stand tall, with good posture.  To be honest, we’re not a huge fan of this one because it requires core strength and anyone who has had children knows how unrealistic this is.  But unfortunately, it does make sense.

2. Listen to music, specifically bass-heavy tunes.  Not a problem when your child has figured out how to operate Sonos and Spotify.

3. Think of a time when you were powerful.  This can include career success, childbirth…or doing something exceptional like keeping your calm while in line at the DMV.  Or Starbucks.  Don’t discount those little victories.

4. “Indulge in your morning ritual”…wow.  When is the last time you actually took time to be “mindful” in the morning, while getting dressed?  Truth be told (embarrassing disclosure), sometimes we are so frazzled in the morning, we forget to brush our teeth.  After washing down an onion bagel with a large cup of coffee.  But I digress.  At HEUCY, our goal is to create a collection that gives women more time to do this — to think about themselves, and their loved ones, and their day ahead…and to brush their teeth — instead of tearing their closets apart in the morning in an effort to find something appropriate/versatile/clean to wear.

5. Dress for the job you want, not the job you have.  Literally and figuratively speaking.  We take this one to heart at HEUCY.  If you want to look like like a grown up, you should dress like one.  Comfortable, versatile and chic clothes are a large part of the equation here.

6. Think of your favorite celebrities, and their best qualities.  Channel those.  Right now we are crushing on any celeb who chooses to grow old gracefully, has a sense of humor AND does something to help the environment and/or people in need.  Oh, and we like the really talented ones.  This narrows the list a bit, but Natalie Portman immediately comes to mind…and others who will hopefully be wearing HEUCY one day!

7. Yoga and stretching. If you can’t go to a yoga class, you can just lie down in child’s pose and pray that no one bothers you.  (Hiding in a closet works here).

8. Learn something new or pursue an interest outside of your day-to-day.  Spanish, Algebra, backgammon, an art class…anything.  I know, it’s easier said than done.  But getting out of your comfort zone can set you up for a lot of personal success.  And sometimes the best kind of success is the kind you feel, rather than what people immediately see.

Happy Monday!

xx,

The HEUCY Team